Archive for June, 2009

Jun
30

Integrity Equals Energy

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This morning I have been busy. Some of my busy was good. Catching up with friends who were keen to know about my experiences in the States and thereby reinforcing my commitment. Some was OK but mistimed like catching up with admin that needed doing when this was not the biggest priority. And some was poor, i.e. reading emails that didn’t need reading, surfing the internet and being distracted.

My current number one action goal is to write a blog post each week day and I have been avoiding that today. I’ve been avoiding it because it takes courage to write from the heart. All my fears about being judged, not doing it well enough, having nothing to say, bubble up and I let them stop me writing.

To write I need to be still.

Breath . . . but still nothing comes to me.

Maybe this is enough. Maybe I am enough . . .

This is funny.

When I was in the process of writing the second paragraph of this post the phone rang. The man on the other end asked – “Can I speak to the person responsible for the energy bills, please?” I said “That’s me” and he put the phone down.

I then changed the title of this post from “Why is it so hard to write?” to “Integrity Equals Energy”.

D’you get it?

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Jun
29

Create A Fearless Plan For Your Day

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It is easy to live a distracted life of chaos, where I feel swamped and I’m suffering in so many small distracting ways, and soon I’m a victim.  That is the easiest way to live.  That is the easiest way for humans in our society to live:  to be swamped, to be overwhelmed, to be overworked, to feel like a victim. And suffer.

Especially those of us who have our own businesses, because when we have our own business, we really could work 24 hours a day.  Or so we always think. We would have plenty to do.  If we could find a way to stay alert and awake for 24 hours, we would work 24 hours.  We wouldn’t run out of things to do.  But that’s the problem. It is being indiscriminate, it’s being unwilling to have a ruthless, focused powerful plan. Like a magnifying glass in the meadow in the summer focusing a sunbeam on a dry leaf. THAT would be my most successful day.

But we get distracted. Our fears tug at our hearts. Small fears. Like “I might upset him if I don’t call him right back.” Soon I am lost. Distraction. It’s the biggest problem anybody-especially anybody having their own business-the biggest problem anybody has.  Because if you work for someone else, there will be some structure there and there will be some other people monitoring your every move, so that they make sure you’re on course.  But if you work for yourself every moment presents a whole new choice.  You can do anything at any given moment. And very few people are committed enough to success (or awake enough to how it happens) to create a fearless plan for the day. But that’s the real answer right there: create a fearless plan for your day. Then work it with great heart and wisdom and love.

Author: Steve Chandler from Club Fearless

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Jun
26

My Return To Coaching

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Well I didn’t get to play around with any ideas because by the time we’d had dinner, I was ready for bed. I loved being around the other peeps in my coaching group though. This is a positive manifestation of something I’ve been wanting – to spend more time around people who want to play a bigger game and who inspire me. So, seems like using this blog to get clear about what I want and then creating that is definately working.

I awoke at 2.00 a.m. this morning and had a major breakthrough but can’t for the life of me remember what it was. I didn’t want to get out of bed to write it down because I thought that might keep me awake but, as it happens, I didn’t get back to sleep anyway so I might as well have done. This sleep deprived, jetlagged state is having an interesting effect. I seem to be in that just waking state, where clarity often happens, much more than usual. Anyway whatever the breakthrough was it doesn’t matter because I’ve had another one. 🙂

I was concerned that I would go back to the UK without an action plan. I wanted something to be working on, other than just my process, when I returned. But everything I thought of felt manufactured and not natural. I was puzzled as to how I could turn this ‘blogging to my new life’ process into something I could work with with coaching clients. What would I say I was doing and how could I explain how that would help them?

Then I just decided that I would run a workshop for 100 people around the topic that everything you need to know to move forward  in your life is in your right now – as long as you take action and are willing to tell the truth.

I can design a workshop around that, using my own experience for inspiration. This will get over the problem I was having with how I would have “coaching conversations” with perspective clients. I just couldn’t envision that but I can imagine a workshop that has been created from my own experience.

So, there you have it, when I share with the group later, what I want to achieve in the next 6 months, I have something to start with that excites me and feels right and more importantly, reflects where I am in my own life right now. That takes away alot of the fear and allows me to be more authentic.

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4.30 p.m.

Well, the workshop is over and what a wonderful experience it has been. I’m really excited about the next 6 months.

Jim Manton gave a talk about the work he does with transitions and transformation and his description of the people he works with exactly matches my dream clients. He also acknowledged my courage for turning up at the workshop, not really knowing what to expect but taking the risk of answering a calling. I felt really validated by that.

Sharing what our goals for the next 6 months was a toughy for me. It was hard to listen to the others who had concrete numbers that they wanted to achieve, either in terms of income or new clients and I had to fight to hold onto what I’m trying to create. But I decided to use this opportunity as another test of my commitment to step up and speak my truth.

I stood at the front of the room, to face my fear of being seen, and shared my goals for the next 6 months. I had to stop a couple of times to let my tears subside but I did it. Stepping outside my comfort zone was the important bit. The quality of my performance was incidental.

I was surprised that Steve mostly focussed on the commitment of writing one blog post a day with less emphasis on the workshop idea. It’s hard to imagine that one blog post will be enough but I’m happy to go with that and continue to record the process and look at some of the quatum stuff again. Actually, the first thing he pointed out was that I had shifted from considering the idea of returning to coaching to making a commitment to making that happen.

One of my 6 month goals is to be earning money for my coaching services before my return to Phoenix in December. Whether that will be via a workshop or in individual clients has yet to be determined.

So . . .  now I’m waiting for 5.30 p.m. when 3 of us will be going into town for dinner. Then 2 more days here and then home.

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Jun
25

Deciding For Myself

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Just returned to my hotel room after Day 1 of Steve Chandlers coaching school. It did not disappoint. Steve is insightful and funny and a pleasure to be around and my fellow attendees are an interesting group of people whom I’m excited to be working with for the next 6 months.

The main take away for me was noticing, again, my tendency to want someone else to tell me what to do or even that I can do it. Whatever “it” is. I’ve been aware of this tendency for years but have still been looking to others for guidance/permission. But what’s the use of someone telling me I can do something if I don’t believe it myself? That’s not going to change anything so, I hereby declare that from now on I am committed to consciously deciding for myself – to choosing what I want for myself and taking action to make it happen.

Tomorrow we have to tell the group what we’d like to achieve in the next six months and receive feedback on that so I’m going to take my notebook and my coloured pens and play around with some ideas.

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Jun
24

A Week Later

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Wow! I can’t believe it’s a week since I had my coaching session with Michelle Pippin. Things have moved fast since then. For example, I’m sitting in a hotel room in Phoenix writing this, a slightly surreal experience partly due to jet-lag and partly due to the pace that things are moving.

As I mentioned, I am considering restarting my coaching practice but what I didn’t say was that I was also considering attending Steve Chandler’s coaching school. Michelle was SO positive about her experience of the school and the results that it had helped to produce that I decided there and then to see if places were still available.

Long story short, I emailed Steve to ask. He emailed back – “I have one place available. I enjoyed reading your blog posts!” and I signed up. I did’t realise quite how mad this was until a friend asked me on Sunday what form the seminar took and I realised I knew nothing about it. All I know is that you spend 2 days with Steve and 8 other coaches. Then have 6 months email coaching with Steve and the other coaches in the group and then meet up again with everyone for another 2 days.

My decision was made on my gut feelings about Steve after reading and listening to his stuff on the web and on my impression of the work the coaches he’s coached are doing. This is what Michelle had to say in a email she sent after our coaching call: “Bottom line: if you CAN attend this event, I want to encourage you to do just that. You won’t find a better coach than Steve. He will hold you accountable to your potential. He won’t hold your hand, but he will empower you to RISE UP to become your own “best self”.”

I do so need someone to hold me “accountable to my potential”. I am weary of playing small.

Then after I’d signed up, in response to my emailing “I’ll let you know what happens next . . .”, Michelle responded with: “I already know what happens next…. YOU step into the fullness of life and business and self that you were created to occupy. YOU walk away “on fire” for creating a life and business you love and are supported for a full six months to make sure inspiration leads to implementation!! Steve is a catalyst for this….The group will be phenomenal and YOU will be forever changed.”

Powerful words indeed and, not surprisingly, I’ve experienced a powerful rollarcoaster of emotions since – excitement, fear, weariness, incredulity that I could take such a financial risk (cuz at times that what it feels like), excitement, fear, detachment, fear, self-doubt, excitement, fear – you get the picture. But, whatever happens, I’m here now. Seminar starts tomorrow and as I said to Michelle . . . “I’ll let you know what happens next . . .”.

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