Sep
04

Whose Life Would You Buy?

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There’s currently an auction on Ebay where a man is selling his “life” for 3.5 million dollars. The sale includes his video game store business, his waterfront home/office and contents, a rental condo, 3 cars, 3 kayaks, valuable collectibles and loads of other stuff. Apparently he’s wanting to take a trip with his family before starting his next business venture.

This sparked a discussion on local radio with people phoning in to say who’s life they’d like to buy.

It seemed like a fun question so I considered it myself. My initial choice was dismissed when I realised I wouldn’t want to be so busy and I didn’t like where this person lives.

My second choice would be risky because all I know of her life is what I see on the outside. I have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.

Then it hit me in a forehead smacking moment of clarity, I wouldn’t want to exchange my life for anyone else’s. No ones! And, having spent so much of the past in and out of depression that realisation feels pretty amazing.

Do you agree? Whose life would you buy or is yours the life you’d most like to live?

Feel free to leave a comment. 🙂

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Aug
29

Officially Retired

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Gosh! Bit of a landmark day this.

Tuesday is my official “working” day when I go to the co-working space I love to “work” in. Today I turned on my laptop and, for the first time for more than 15 years, the websites I use to check my business stats are no longer available. Last week I discontinued the web hosting for more than 200 sites and that’s it . . . business over.

This moment has been coming for the best part of a decade. I’ve thought about stopping it numerous times and have also done the opposite. I took on Ed Dale (highly sucessful internet marketer) as a coach and created my internet marketing coaching year website to tell the story. Looking back now I can see that I was trying to get someone to make me do something I didn’t really want to do. However, at the time, I couldn’t hear that I didn’t want to do this anymore.

One thing that kept me going for so long was because I didn’t have anything else I wanted to do and it felt too scary to just let go and see what happened. I was concerned that without any structure at all I would revert to my days of depression.

These days I have given up looking for a “project” or a “job” and more easily enjoy my life as it is. So, apart from when I am thinking otherwise, I don’t need an external label to cling on to. I just enjoy each day and let them unfold.

Funnily enough, since I decided to finally let the web business go, I find myself involved in a couple of projects that didn’t even exist a couple of weeks ago.

 

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Aug
21

The Three Principles And Art

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Oh my goodness! It’s been over 2 years since I last wrote a blog post. It’s fun to be back!

I find myself writing again because there are a couple of really interesting things going on that I think are worth sharing. One is my experience of working with The 3 Principles or living from the inside out and the other is my experience of starting to play around with paints, collage and creative stuff generally.

I’m not so good at explaining the former so I’ve put up a Three Principles resources page where you will find links to loads of good stuff and good people who are far more eloquent than I on the subject. At this point, suffice it to say, that The Principles have had a huge impact on my life. Nothing has changed but everything is different and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.

And then there’s the painting etc. I’m finding that the way I “do Art” is turning out to be a brilliant metaphor for the way I’d like to live my life.

And here’s how it all began . . .

A good friend of mine is a professional artist. One day when looking at her art I thought “I fancy having a go at that”. So the next time I visited her I asked if I could give it a try and found myself playing around with all her lovely paints and mediums and beads and stamps and wire and . . . and . . . all sorts of yummy goodies. And I loved it. And that was interesting to me. This seemed to be an experience where it was easy for me to play. No ‘tortured artist suffering for her art’ stereotype for me.

I definitely had an opinion about whether or not I liked what I was producing but I noticed that it seemed to change. One evening I’d think “that looks like something a kindergartener would do” and then in the morning I’d think “I quite like it”.

 

Art is not something I’ve spent much time thinking about – other than to think I’m no good at it! And, before my visit to my friend’s studio I hadn’t picked up a paintbrush since I was at school. I’d never painted on canvas. Consequently, I don’t have a lot of internal rules or structure around what I should do, or how it works, or what it means, and I’m finding the whole experience incredibly liberating.

 

And this is how I’m living life more and more. Letting go of preconceived ideas, dropping rules I’ve made up, learning to live with not knowing and being OK with that. Just showing up and watching it unfold.

And this too is incredibly liberating . . .

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Apr
07

Life Is Won Inch By Inch

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Just what I needed this morning. A reminder that “life is won inch by inch” and “the inches we need are around us everywhere”.

Use what you have right now. Take the next small step and keep moving forward.

Thanks to Nick Smith for drawing my attention to this inspiring video.

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Mar
22

What Are You Waiting For?

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I am becoming more and more aware of all the waiting I do in my life.

At the beginning of last week I exchanged a few emails with Ed on the mentoring programme and felt confused as a result. Rather than check out what I understood by them I made assumptions that kept me stuck and waiting for Friday when I was anticipating the week’s webinar would clear things up.

I was right about the clarification but not in the way I’d imagined.

One of the key points of the webinar was to fail in the field rather than in your head. To stop trying to work everything out, in other words, and to stop waiting for perfection. But just to get on with it.

I realised then that what Ed had been saying earlier in the week was not, as I’d thought, to do more research but was instead, to just get on and use the research I’d already done. Because I was looking for perfection and trying hard to get it “right” I was failing in my head and not taking action as a result. So, feeling inspired after the webinar, I just got on with it and put up my new internet marketing coaching website, warts and all. And that got me to thinking how often we fail in our head instead of in the field of life.

When we don’t take action and get out there, all we’ve got are the thoughts in our heads and fears in our bodies. We have no idea if what we imagine would happen is true or not. Without testing our assumptions and taking action we are stuck. Waiting. But what are we waiting for – more money, more time, more motivation, more energy, more courage?

Sitting around waiting for those things, or thinking about them, is never going to attract them to us. We have to create them by taking action.

So, today, ask yourself what you are waiting for. Where are you failing  in your head?

Then, make a decision to go for it anyway, despite your fears, despite not knowing how it will turn out and take immediate action towards it.

Please leave a comment and let us know how you get on.

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About Life Moves

Life Moves is an unfolding story of my journey to discover and create what I truly want from life. I hope you will find my writings helpful, inspirational, encouraging, amusing or, at the very least, usually worth reading. Please feel free to comment on any posts about which you have an opinion. Or make one up. I do it all the time and it can be very dull, alone in cyberspace.

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Gillian