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Mar
10

Do The Next And Only Thing

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“When you end a day with the feeling that you would have lived it the same if you had the chance to repeat it, you gain a sense of gratitude that helps you focus on what’s really important to you. When you end the day with a feeling of regret or loss, you gain the awareness to try a different approach the next day.”
Steve Pavlina

Yesterday I spent coworking, which means I was pretty much sitting at a desk all day. By the time I left for home I was feeling frustrated with myself as I’d not produced much. My focus had been all over the place and I’d forgotten my own 45/15 rule for productive work. I’d dipped in and out of emails, written a blog post, checked stats, looked around some forums, messed around with a keyword tool, chatted on messenger, chatted to colleagues etc. etc.

By early afternoon my energy levels were dropping and I was feeling bored but I ignored my feelings and continued “messing” around.

So, as in the quote above, today I get to try a different approach. Here’s my intention for how it will go:

1.  List what I want to get done today. (Completed)
2.  Work with my 45/15 rule.
3.  Focus on the next thing and the next thing only.

So, that’s me. I’m off . . .

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Aug
22

When You Don’t Know What You Want

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Lately,  I’ve been  noticing that the more I have the thought “I don’t know what to do with my life”, the worse I feel, the greater a mystery it seems to be and the less energy I have.

During a phonecall with a friend I remembered that, yesterday, a co-worker had told me that she was reading “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” and she’d been thinking it would be much easier to apply “this stuff” if other people were reading the book with her and they were doing the exercises together.

Anyway, we ended up having a conversation about my running some sort of coaching/mastermind group locally.

And then I immediately forgot the conversation.

It wasn’t until the phonecall this morning that I remembered it. I’d been given an opportunity to create a coaching group in exactly the way I’d said I’d wanted to build a coaching practice, i.e. that my clients would ask me, and I’d managed to walk right by it. So that got me thinking . . .

What if I never know what I want to do in the longer term? That’s pretty much how my life has been so far and I’ve done some interesting and fun things. So maybe it wouldn’t be so bad.

What if there is a whole bunch of people, like me, who never know exactly what they want to do and, instead of wasting energy trying to work it out, what we really need to learn, is how to notice the opportunities and how to be ready and take advantage of them when they appear?

Can I be the owner of the PROCESS of my life rather than of the outcomes I want to produce? Can I use what is in my life now to propel me into the future without having to know what future it is I want to create?

There is so much good information out there about creating the life you want to live and even how to find what you really want but it doesn’t seem to work for me. Then there are all those quotes (Can’t think of one off-hand) that seem to say if you don’t know where you’re going you’re doomed to go nowhere. Well, what if there is another way?

So, this is what I am going to do for the next 4 weeks. I am going to experiment with creating my life from where I am and without knowing where I’m going. I’m going to pay more attention to what is present and, when opportunities occur which I’m not sure about I will say “yes” rather than “no”.

Bottom line I’m going to have 4 weeks off from being concerned about not knowing what I want and see what happens.

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Jul
28

Repeating Our Personal History

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I received my report from my coach this morning. Here’s one of the things that jumped out at me:

“Our history has NO impact on us unless we give it new life each morning. Give life to something else!”

This was in response to my growing awareness of operating from the position of victim rather than taking ownership of my moods.

While I was writing my report on Sunday I tried an enquiry into who I was being when I was in one of these moods. It went like this:

“Who are you being when you feel this way. (Low mood, down, heavy).

(Victim’s reply)
Someone who feels hopeless
That I’m never going to change
That I’m always going to feel this way

It’s like I see the truth of the victim/owner distinction but my history proves that I can’t change it. Other people can – my clients even – but not me.

And as soon as I write that down I think “WHAT A LOAD OF RUBBISH”! It’s laughable. (Owner)

But then I think “Oh yeah? Well, then why did you not choose to own your feelings this week?” (Victim)

And the owner replies. “Who cares about this week. I’m only concerned with now and I can’t stay here chatting with you. I’ve got cleaning to do before my guest arrives”.

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I was amazed at how quickly I was able to shift my energy by getting in touch with the victim side of me instead of just believing I had no control over my mood. And suddenly I felt energised again. However, this type of work takes practice, apparently, as yesterday morning I was back again to feeling down.

This time the shift came by creating something a bit outrageous to focus on.

A friend of mine is visiting and we are both signed up to Michael Neill’s Creating the Impossible in 30 Days. We were both feeling a bit hurrumph and stuck so we decided we’d go back to day 1 and see how much of it we could get done before she goes home in a few days time.

We started by going for a walk and getting clear about our impossible challenge again. Then we came home and set to. We whizzed through day 1 and set 3 tasks which were required for day 2. We were also required to attack our goal with overwhelming energy. And, since we’d been so stuck earlier in the day this seemed even more crazy which made us jump around the room like mad things waving our arms and shouting “I’m wild and overwhelming”!

My 12 year old stuck his head around the door and beat a fast retreat muttering in his ‘I’m practicing being a teenager’ way, “Oh My God!” But even he couldn’t resist the energy and next thing you know he’s in the garage with my mate holding up her jewelights (long story) while she took photographs.

So, it’s plain to see that there’s more to this mood thing than it being something that happens to me. And I have a long history here. But that last night, before I went to bed, I wrote down the above quote and promised myself I would read it first thing this morning.

Not only did I read it but I also listened to my ‘Life’s Vitim Owner Choice’ CD, despite waking in the usual low mood. And next thing you know the mood’s lifted and I’m looking forward to the day ahead. As soon as I felt the heaviness I said to myself “I will not go there. My history has NO impact on me unless I give it new life this morning. I will not do that!” I didn’t even know what the “something else” was I wanted to give life to. But that didn’t matter. Saying “no” to history and the heaviness was sufficient to set a positive mood for the day.

If this is something that you can relate to I encourage you to give this a go and then to leave a comment and let us know how it went.

What are you choosing to give life to today?

Categories : Creating My Life, Mood
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Jul
24

The Last Bastion of Victimhood?

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I’m giving a talk/mini workshop on August 5th about the owner/victim distinction and I wonder is this the last bastion of my victimhood?.

In a nutshell, the owner/victim distinction relects how victim’s wait for life to happen to them and owner’s take control of their lives and create what they want. However, we’re rarely one or the other. We can turn up as one in one area of our lives or as the other in another area. And it can change at any time without us noticing.

One area of my life where I take ownership, but little action (despite my having made a commitment to this last week) is physical fitness. I know that if I exercise I will feel better and have more energy and that it is up to me to do this.

However, one area where I frequently play victim, is that of mood. Since I started working with my coach in June it is a topic that has reared it’s head a few times, especially these last couple of weeks and it always stops me moving forwards. (Hmmmm. Notice the victim language there? “it always stops me moving forwards”. More accurate would be “I often allow it stop me moving forward”). Yesterday I dragged myself around the house, ate comfort food and watched television feeling that I had no control over my mood. Or that if I did, it was just too hard to choose a different one.

As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, mood has long been a biggie for me. But this morning I felt sick of being at it’s mercy. Even if it feels too hard or I don’t quite believe that I have the power to change it I can commit to investigating what might be done and what works for me.

So let’s see where I’m starting from . . .

. . . one thing I believe is that low mood can be improved by exercise. There is plenty of research to show that this is the case but I’ve not tested this. I’ve already shown that, until now, I’ve not been totally committed to improving my fitness levels. I know this because I haven’t consistently followed through with my agreement with myself to walk every day. However, in order to do some of the things on my wish list I’ll need to be fitter. (See my don’t go back to sleep) post.

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Later . . . I can’t believe how hard I’m finding it to write this post. My energy levels have dropped. It is such a familiar, but unwanted space so, in the spirit of investigation, I’m going to leave it for now and do something to shift my mood – go for a walk . . .

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Later still . . .

I enjoyed my walk and it did, indeed, shift my mood somewhat.

However, there is still a sense that something is not right and I’m not feeling energised.

A friend of mine who’s been following my journey with mood this week takes the view that “it takes much more energy to hold a feeling out, than to let it in“. And that taking mood-changing action isn’t the point.  She says “I think the point is (for me), to be with whatever it is.  No distraction – no music, novels, TV, drugs, alcohol, shopping, telephoning friends, IF I’m only doing it to escape where I really am.  Otherwise I’m splitting off part of myself and my life“.

So that’s another view, another approach to experiment with. And the best way to experiment with not being the victim of my moods is to bring curiosity to the table. What happens if I go for a walk? What happens if I sit with it?

I doubt that mood is the last bastion of my victimhood but it certainly merits investigation.

Categories : Creating My Life, Mood
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Jul
20

Don’t Go Back To Sleep

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My post today is a poem by Rumi. (Thanks to my coach Steve Chandler for introducing it to me). The words are particularly apt because I’ve realised that this last week, although having moments when I was wide awake, I’ve spent much of the time asleep.

I started to fall back into my old numbing routine – way too much time in front of the computer, no walks by the sea and, horror of horrors, I had a mindless television watching session on Saturday night.

When I examine my week I see that apart from when I was coaching, or otherwise engaged with others, I felt dissatisfied. And I notice that there are 2 things gnawing at me that won’t go away:

1.  Exercise – or lack there of! Some of the things I want to do in my life simply can’t be done at my current level of fitness (hike to Everest Base Camp for example) and I could definately do with more energy. So I am now making a commitment to improving my overall fitness. I will return to walking everyday as my place to start.

2.  Stepping Out more in Creating my Coaching Practice. I think I am still a bit in hiding, waiting for my blog to build my practice. No doubt it can be done this way but it is a slow strategy and I want to coach more now. I need to fearlessly consider how I can go about creating that. One idea is to run some mini-workshops in the evening . . .

Anyway, here is the poem I mentioned:

Today, like every other day, we wake up empty
and frightened. Don’t open the door to the study
and begin reading. Take down a musical instrument.
Let the beauty we love be what we do.
There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.

The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.

Rumi

My commitment to myself today is this: “I will stay awake”!

Categories : Creating My Life, Poems
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Life Moves is an unfolding story of my journey to discover and create what I truly want from life. I hope you will find my writings helpful, inspirational, encouraging, amusing or, at the very least, usually worth reading. Please feel free to comment on any posts about which you have an opinion. Or make one up. I do it all the time and it can be very dull, alone in cyberspace.

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