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Mar
12

Past and Future – Here Be Dragons

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I had my first 1 : 1 mentoring session with Ed yesterday. After a tricky start with Ed trying to pin me down to a market and me fighting for ” freedom”, we finally found a way forward.

So, after the call, I settled down to the work and all was well for a couple of hours. Then the nay-sayers in my head started. But, I soldiered on with my work plan.

Then. this morning, the cacophony was so loud my eyes started to get a bit moist!

G I V E   M E   A   B R E A K!

One day into the journey and I’m already questioning myself, doubting my choices, telling tales of failure and thinking about giving up.

Looking to the future holds endless imaginings of danger. Looking to the past reinforces the stories of why “this won’t work”. So I’m staying in the present today.

Doing the next thing.

One step at a time.

Phew. Another crisis averted.

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Mar
03

You Are Already That Which You Admire

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There is a phenomenon in Jungian psychology called projection. The idea is that we project onto others that which we can’t/don’t want to see in ourselves. We see qualities in someone else that we ourselves possess. And, therapy being therapy, the emphasis is primarily on unacceptable or threatening feelings.

I have found the idea to be helpful at times. I’ve noticed that whenever I have a strong emotional reaction to what someone else says or does and I look at my own thoughts/ behaviour I can usually find examples of where I have behaved in a similar way. Not a particularly pleasant realisation. But one that helps me be less judgemental and to learn to take responsibility for my own experience rather than blaming others.

But what’s less talked about is the positive side of the equation. If we are projecting the things we don’t like about ourselves then maybe we are projecting the things we do like too and are equally unaware of them. This got me thinking and I invented a game I called ‘Mrs Projection Head’ (pun intended). To play you need to be willing to suspend judgement and assume that projection, as I’ve described it, is what is actually happening when we look at others.

Then, have a trawl through your mind and think about what it is you like/admire in others. Take a “walk” through your day and think about your friends, family, and people at work. You don’t even have to know them personally. Consider also celebrities, historical figures and characters in books. Which of all the hundreds of thoughts/stories you tell yourself about what they are like would you most like to be true of you? Which would you choose to focus on and strengthen? Which would you choose to develop? Who would you BE in other words?

Can you find examples of these qualities in your life already? By looking for them you will help to reinforce them in yourself. Even if you can’t see them chances are those around you can. Ask those closest to you if they can you give you examples.

Take that picture of all that is best in others with you as you go about your day today, knowing that in order for you to see that particular picture you must have those qualities within you first.

You are already that which you admire in others. You just haven’t seen it yet!

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Feb
24

The Simple Wonder of it All!

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I’m sitting in a cafe, enjoying a capucchino when I read:

“People say that what we are all seeking is a meaningful life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking.
I think what we are really seeking is an experience of being alive”.

– Joseph Campbell

An I am reminded of another of my favourite quotes:

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and then go do that.
Because, what the world needs is more people who have come alive.”

– Harold Thurman

My mind drifts off as I gaze out the window and I ask myself “what makes me come alive?”

I answer:

The Simple Wonder of it All . . .

I notice yellow bricks on tall buildings and red bricks on tall chimneys and glass in windows so we can see out and I marvel at how we learned to create that. From caves to tall buildings that don’t fall over and have sloping roofs made from different materials from the walls and ornamentation for no other purpose than to make them look fine.

And then there are the cars – black ones, white ones, green, sliver ones and a red and yellow double decker bus where people can sit on two different levels, one above the other. Engines and gears and wheels and metal and rubber. And I marvel at how we learned to do that. From walking slowly on 2 feet to speeding around in metal miracles.

And then I notice the sea crashing onto the beach. The timelessness of it. The power. The constancy. The beauty. And my mind spins off to the miracle of being alive right now, right here, in a universe of wonderous galaxies and gazillions of stars.

Bloody hell. I’m gob-smacked!

What makes me come alive?

Simply noticing this. Just this!

Wow! Wow! A billion, trilllion times wow!

so . . . (cough, cough) . . . what makes YOU come alive?

Fell free to post a comment and let us know . . .

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Aug
12

Live For Today

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I’ve had a very full on couple of weeks – lots of internal working and questioning of beliefs, stepping up to try new things and enquiring into the question “What do I intend to use my life for”? I’ve been pleased with my progress and with the mind shifting that has been happening but this morning I almost fell back into the old trap of over thinking things and believing my story of “I don’t know what to do”.

Last night I was catching a friend up on what had been happening and she was amazed (as I am) at how quickly things are shifting. But, even as I told the sotry I knew the real test would come this morning when I woke up with an empty calendar for the next three days. Because a big challenge for me has been how I live my life when seemingly nothing is happening. How do I fill the space? Do I even try?

And this morning, when I woke to the prospect of “nothing happening” over the next three days, I felt my energy begin to sink. So first I told myself “do not go there”. Then, I just lay quietly and observed my thoughts trying to sort this thing out, this thing of “nothing happening”. My mind came up with loads of ideas about what this meant and what I should do about it and then one question slowly arose that stopped the clamour of competing voices – “What do you want to create today”? Not in the future, but today. And I thought, but all I’ve got to do is a load of boring stuff – house cleaning, buying school uniform and sorting out a bus pass with my son.

All last week I was meeting new and exciting people, talking about exciting things and today, I thought, the only person around is my son.

ONLY? ONLY?

WAKE UP !

When did I get to see my son as the “only” (as in no-one special) person around. As though my time with him were not as wonderful and exciting as all the people I met last week. Because he is familiar and he is in my life on a daily basis I have fallen alseep to his beauty, to the wonder that he is. I have fallen into the trap of the daily grind – fighting with him over computer games, getting him to do his room and turn off the tele. I have been loving him, yes. But I have not been creating something new with him. Something today, even more wonderful than yesterday.

So, when I got out of bed, I did so committed to creating a wonderful day today with my son. With the miracle that is my son.

And then, as if that waking up weren’t enough, I read a blog post on my friend Nick Smith’s blog called live now. He recounts how a prospective client of his was killed in a plane crash this weekend. It is another wake up call and ends with:

Live Now!

Give all you have to give to the world now!

There is no tomorrow.

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Gillian Pearce – Life Moves

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About Life Moves

Life Moves is an unfolding story of my journey to discover and create what I truly want from life. I hope you will find my writings helpful, inspirational, encouraging, amusing or, at the very least, usually worth reading. Please feel free to comment on any posts about which you have an opinion. Or make one up. I do it all the time and it can be very dull, alone in cyberspace.

Bon Voyage!

Gillian