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This morning I found myself thinking about the nature of discipline after reading two different views about how often to publish blog posts. One recommends publishing only when you have something to say and the other suggests writing at regular intervals. The latter is Chris Guillibeau’s preference who says “Set a schedule and never miss a post . . . this isn’t so much about the readership–most people would forgive me if I missed a day, and many wouldn’t even notice. Instead, it’s about SELF-DISCIPLINE”.

Now those of you who have been around a while will remember that on my return from Phoenix, I intended to publish a blog post every day. I didn’t do so for long and so was wondering whether or not Chris’s approach might be a useful one for me to follow. But there’s something about the word ‘discipline’ that leaves me cold.

Whenever I read something that suggests I practice discipline, I find myself silently screaming “No, no. Don’t make me do it. I want to do it my way”. No wonder I don’t like it. The story I tell about discipline is that it is a form of coercion. Something demanded from the outside that necessitates doing it someone else’s way.

It’s a story I suspect, that’s a hangover from school days when the teachers seemed all powerful and from childhood in general when parents or other adults were in control. Discipline conjures up having to tidy my room, do my piano practice or something connected with the PE instructor on the parade ground. And I am obviously not alone. If you look in Google at the most common searches people carry out, that contain the word “discipline”, you will find that of the 200 most popular, way over half (I stopped counting at 100) relate to children, kids, toddlers, teachers, parents, classrooms, schools etc. No wonder the idea has such negative connotations.

But I am no longer a child and am free to choose a new view. I can make it an internal choice now rather than an external command.

However, writing a blog post everyday wasn’t a goal that was connected to something I really wanted. It was a goal I made for it’s own sake. But I DO want to get better at writing. I want to discover more of what I have to say. Writing helps me clarify my thoughts and make adjustments to how I approach things. I hope I will inspire others to think about things differently too and to experiment with other ways of being and doing things.

So rather than try to be disciplined and only post when I have something to say, or set a schedule and never miss a post, or make a post everyday, I would rather put my energy into practising the craft and spend at least 15  minutes a day writing something – anything. Doesn’t matter. Just get my pen on paper. That’s a discipline that’s worth learning for me.

As Steve Chandler would say – “Discipline is remembering what you want”.

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Oct
21

I Meant To Do That

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Received this email from my coach yesterday. I have put it in my “remember this” file which I use to remind me of what’s truly important to me, when I get bogged down in details, or my story, or start to feel low. Hope you enjoy the message and the song. I’m off to write my “I meant to do that” list . . .

Dear club members,

For years, I thought of creating this club for people.

For years. I meant to do it, but didn’t.

Then there was a moment in my life when I was just raised up…like my father would lift me up as a tiny boy…

I was raised up, almost into the air. By a single thought.

The thought was: “no more”: … no more will I ever have anything I meant to do but didn’t. No expression of love. No secret longing to write a mystery novel. No more “I meant to do it but never did.” Never again. Ever.

So imagine my feelings when I played this song sent to me by a club member last week. A song called “I Meant To Do That.” Please listen to it.

Love to you all,

Steve

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Jul
17

Schedule Time or Miss Your Life

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About a week ago I mentioned returning to the enquiry of “what is it I truly want“? I did take some time to mull that over and this is what I came up with:

1.  Time with family
2.  Time with friends
3.  Adventure
4.  Learning
5.  Time with inspiring people
6.  Spontaneity, the unexpected, synchronicity
7.  Fun

I started to schedule some time in my calendar for these things but then the redesign of the blog and my coaching practice took over and I left that particular task uncompleted.

This has just reinforced how essential it is to actually block out time on your calendar for ALL the things that are important to you.  It’s just too easy to get caught up in a couple of areas of your life and the other things get missed. Paradoxically, I find this to be especially true when I’m really enjoying something.

So, having decided what it is I want to create, the next step is to decide what time frame I want to place these things within. For example, do I want an adventure once an hour, once a day, twice a week or once a year? Do I want to spend time with inspiring people on a daily basis . . . weekly . . . monthly?

Then having done that block out time in your calendar, both for the event itself and for planning the event, if necessary. So for example, under my travel heading I’ve decided I want to take a major trip of at least 2 weeks, once a year;  a trip of at least one week, twice a year and have 4 weekends away per year.

I know I’m going to be returning to the Coaching School in Phoenix in December and I’d like to make that the major trip. So that’s going to take some planning. I’ve blocked out the trip itself on my calendar and one hour a week for 4 weeks to get the trip planned and booked. If I find that those 4 hours are not sufficient I will add more in 4 weeks time.

I went through this process with the other things I want to create more of in my life and made sure to leave plenty of gaps to allow for shifting things around due to the unexpected and to allow for spontaneity.

I plan to briefly revisit this every Monday morning (which is in my calendar, of course) to make adjustments as necessary.

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Yesterday morning I woke up excited and raring to go and thought, hoorah, I’ve reached one of my goals (to wake up excited and raring to go).

This morning I woke up feeling low and spent most of the morning tempted to go back to bed.

“How did that happen?” I hear you ask.

Well . . . I received an email late yesterday afternoon. After reading it I felt like my wrists had been well and truly slapped. Tears came to my eyes and I just wanted to go and hide in a corner. I’d been doing so well . . .

This morning I tried to process why I had such a strong reaction to those particular words. I watched Byron Katie videos. I read inspiring works. I wrote “in my head”. I was transported back to a memory of an incident when I was about 5 or 6, whose theme I seemed to have replayed over and over in my life. And I sobbed. I mean really sobbed.

But, so what? Sobbing didn’t change anything. (Felt good though). And it wasn’t a new insight so I didn’t reach a new level of understanding.

So I hung out in the misery until I thought “sod this for a game of soldiers”. **** it! Who want’s to be a grown up anyway? Whereupon I reached for the Pringles, turned on a DVD and showed a finger to the world.

And now I feel great. I’ve got my cappuccino, my son will be home from school shortly, tonight is a family night that I’m really looking forward to.  The angst will just bloody well have have to wait.

I’m playing.

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About Life Moves

Life Moves is an unfolding story of my journey to discover and create what I truly want from life. I hope you will find my writings helpful, inspirational, encouraging, amusing or, at the very least, usually worth reading. Please feel free to comment on any posts about which you have an opinion. Or make one up. I do it all the time and it can be very dull, alone in cyberspace.

Bon Voyage!

Gillian